Why We Need to Talk About Death (and What We Leave Behind)

I’ll be the first to admit: talking about death isn’t easy. For many Americans, it’s a subject we avoid at all costs. We skirt around it in conversation, joke to lighten the mood, or brush it off with an “I’ll deal with it later” mindset. But the truth is, avoiding the topic doesn’t make it go away—it just makes it harder for the loved ones we leave behind.

One of the most tangible ways this avoidance manifests is in the stuff we accumulate over a lifetime. Homes filled with cherished mementos, forgotten knick-knacks, and everyday items become an overwhelming task for those left behind. When the time comes to sort through someone’s belongings, emotions run high. Grief mingles with guilt, indecision, and sometimes resentment. It’s a burden that could be eased if we, as a society, were more open to discussing not only death but also what we want to happen with our possessions when we’re gone.

I’ve seen firsthand how difficult this process can be for families. It’s not just about “cleaning out a house.” Every object tells a story, and deciding what to keep, donate, or let go of can feel like navigating an emotional minefield. But these decisions don’t have to fall entirely on your loved ones. By addressing the topic now—before it’s urgent—you can help make these choices clearer.

Decluttering while you’re alive and well is a gift to your family. It’s an opportunity to sort through what matters most to you, to pass along meaningful items, and to let go of what no longer serves you. More importantly, it opens the door to conversations about legacy, values, and memories. These discussions might feel uncomfortable at first, but they can also bring a profound sense of peace.

Let’s normalize talking about death and what we leave behind—not as a grim task, but as an act of love. When we embrace the idea of living with intention, we create a legacy of clarity and care, making life easier for those who matter most. After all, isn’t that how we’d all like to be remembered?